If you were to ask me two years ago if I could see myself where I am now, I would probably laugh and scoff at you. I would probably tell you that raising children up the Montessori way will only make them weak. 

Boy was I wrong!

Montessori has changed my life and my family’s. It actually raises children up to be strong by helping them regulate their emotions, letting them have a voice, allowing them to make their own choices, and to know that they are loved through it all. It has created a safe space for my children and for my husband and I. 

Montessori can work for anyone! All you have to do is to do your research on how to adopt the Montessori lifestyle into your daily life. There are so many resources out there now that you can find to help you on your journey into Montessori.  

Be forewarned: Montessori isn’t for everyone because to be completely honest with you, it’s sometimes the hardest way to parent. I know this doesn’t sound appealing but what I mean by this is that, Montessori doesn’t teach you how to control your child’s emotions but it actually teaches YOU how to control your own emotions. This means to take responsibility and accountability for your own actions. You can’t expect your child to be calm if you’re not calm. Your child is following your example. When they see that you are calm, they will also become calm. This has been one of the hardest journeys amongst Montessori I’ll have to say but it has undone so much generational trauma that I can’t help but be grateful to this method. I won’t write this and say that I haven’t lost my cool because I have, I’m only human but I take it as a learning and teaching moment for myself on how to handle the situation better in the future. 

Montessori is more about the child leading rather than the parent leading. This means to allow to child to choose what toy they want to play with and what activity they want to work on instead of being told what to do and when. 

Montessori allows your child to find their independence all still the while needing your support, help, and encouragement. There is so much more to Montessori that what I’ve outlined here but I’m so grateful for it. This is something I want to definitely pass down for many generations to come!

Sincerely, 

Melissa Lee

I found myself doing chores and running errands on the weekend and realized that’s really my time off! I had to find a way to re-purpose my weekdays so that I can enjoy the weekends with my family again. I had to make my days intentional and so I came up with a weekly schedule that allowed for me to do just that. 

MONDAY:

Laundry 

(This day is for our big weekly load that gets done and folded that same day! It can vary depending on the need and size of the family but for my family of four, it worked for us!)

TUESDAY:

Yard Work

(This day was when my husband would mow the lawn, me pull out weeds from our landscaping, trimming the bushes, etc.) 

WEDNESDAY

Grocery & Errands

(This day was set aside for grocery shopping and to run any errands to grab supplies for the following week as needed. Sometimes we didn’t need groceries or to run errands so it was a rest day sometimes.)

THURSDAY:

Deep Cleaning

(This day from start to finish is dedicated solely to deep cleaning. I start by cleaning the bathrooms and then work my way out to the bedrooms and finish in the main living areas. I vacuum or set the robot vacuum to do it and then I mop. I always try to clean the kitchen counters and reset every room before bed each night so the place is refreshed for me the next day. I’ll go more into what my deep cleaning looks like as that’s another blog on its own.)

FRIDAY, SATURDAY, SUNDAY

Enjoy time with my family.

This is how I escaped doing chores and running errands by maximizing my weekdays so I can maximize my weekends. 

Despite what others tell you that if you’re not rich or a millionaire yet that you shouldn’t be taking weekends off, I’m here to tell you to take the weekends off and spend it with your family. You can always make money but you can’t always make memories. I respect the hustle but my respect for my family is higher. The hustle already has you from Monday to Friday from 8am-5pm, let it take no more from you. Life is so much more than becoming rich because my family makes me feel rich. That’s more than enough for me. 

Thank you for reading and God bless you!

Sincerely,

Melissa Lee

A lot of my readers and friends reached out with more questions from my previous blog of Steps to Buying A Home (https://loveahmongus.com/steps-to-buying-a-home/) so I am writing this to help people prepare financially for their home purchase.
It probably seems like a never ending list of things to check off before you purchase a home but I’m here to help with the financial aspect of it and hope that some of this information will be useful to you.

1. Check Your Finances
Isn’t this the most obvious? Sometimes not. Check your bank account, check your spending, can you afford another payment added onto everything that you already have going on? This is a good time to check your expenses and see if a home purchase is a good time for you. I’ve written a blog with an excel sheet that can help with your spending, for free! (https://loveahmongus.com/what-does-my-expense-sheet-look-like/)

2. How Much Should I Put Down?

My answer will always be 20% or more. Why? Because if you don’t, you’ll be paying $300-$500 more a month in PMI which stands for private mortgage insurance. This does absolutely nothing for you but goes towards insurance to the lender in case you default on your loan. On top of that, you’ll be paying this until you reach the 20%. Did you know that real estate investors always put 20% down on all their investment homes because they don’t like throwing money away so you shouldn’t either because your home is your investment.

3. 30 Year Mortgage Is Okay But 15 Is Better

My husband and I did our mortgage for a 30 year term because we were unsure what would happen in the next 15 years in case we lost our jobs and didn’t want to risk it. A year later, we refinanced for a 15 year term because we don’t know what’s going to happen in the next 15 years either and I actually left my job to become a Stay At Home Mom. Not only did we get a better interest rate but we will be debt free in 15 years instead of 30! Can’t really beat that!

4. Make Sure Everyone Is On The Same Page

This really should be #1 but I feel like when people are looking for a home, most spouses and family are already ready together. This just doesn’t apply financially but also mentally and physically. Make sure the home is a good fit for everyone and get their input when looking at homes together. You want a home for everyone and not just you. Sometimes everyone agrees and sometimes it’s a little more difficult but let everything be done within reason. A green or orange wall can always be painted over or a yellow fireplace can always be painted. The same goes for kitchens, bathrooms, and bedrooms. You also don’t want to overwork yourself or others to death feeling like you are flipping a home. Just some TLC to a home is expected but not flipping a house — unless that’s the purpose of your purchase.

With all that said, don’t let this discourage you from purchasing a home. Only you know when the right time is to purchase a home whether you have 1% or 20% down. These are just steps to encourage you to save money in the long run. I wish the best for you in your home purchase!

Sincerely,

Melissa Lee

Oftentimes, when we purchase a home, we tend to do steps backwards or completely out of order so it was recommended by a friend to write this blog so that it can help out first time home buyers or others who may be interested. I write this experience as a previous Realtor and current first time homeowner.

1. Pre-Approval

Nothing hurts more than already having your mind and heart set on a home that you’ve been looking at for days or months, just to find out that you don’t qualify for it. The purpose of a pre-approval is to make your standards become more realistic. It shows you what you CAN afford and what homes you CAN fall in love with and to be honest, most realtors won’t work with you for too long until you get a pre-approval. It also shows that you are serious about the home buying process.

2. Get A Realtor

A realtor for home buying is free* to you! They work FOR you and with you. I do not recommend going in blindly as an agent who is working with the homeowner is going to only try to get the best deal for the homeowner and not you. The realtor who works for you is going to be paid by the commission on the home. There’s NO reason not to have a realtor who works for you and is FREE*.

(*Most realtors who work with homebuyers are free but with the new virtual brokers such as Rex and such do not pay commission to the buying agent. Please be cautious of this when looking at which homes have these brokers.)

3. House Searching & Viewing

After getting your pre-approval, I recommend at least having 3+ houses in mind to go look at because if you’re set on one home and it gets sold or under contract, you’re gonna be right back at step 1. This will save you time and heartache.

4. Getting An Inspection

This step is automatic for homes already built but not for new homes or homes waiting to be built — I highly recommend it. Getting an inspection ensures that the home is in good condition and if not, you can walk away or use it as negotiating point when it comes to putting in an offer.

5. Putting In An Offer

This is the most important part as it could be you get or don’t get the home. Make sure you come with your best offer and not your lowest offer. Best offer doesn’t necessarily mean HIGHEST offer but your best. Do NOT go over your budget and do NOT lowball. The process of home buying is serious and you should take it seriously or you’ll find yourself without a home.

I hope explaining this process has helped and that you take something away from this! Feel free to reach out with any questions or comments!

Sincerely,

Melissa Lee

Some people have asked me if I have been able to maintain my frugal and minimal lifestyle after having a baby. The answer is – absolutely YES! This is the best time to practice this lifestyle by proving that your child doesn’t need much either. Now, before you start to feel bad for my child because he may seem “deprived”, I assure you that’s not the case. My child doesn’t have an understanding of the value of money and what is a toy and isn’t. He is just as happy with a plastic spoon as compared to any other toy. Children find temporary happiness in toys but they definitely get bored of them quickly. This is why I do not have a lot of toys for my child.

Teaching your child that less is more is the plan. I’m more about adventures and the experiences to be had such as the aquarium, the zoo, etc. These are the things to live for and it’ll show your child that quality time is the best time. This is better than having to clean up tons of toys that are on the ground. Less toys means less picking up. I always pick up before I leave the baby room and it takes me less than 30 seconds. This helps with not cluttering the ground and room and you have a fresh start the next time you enter the room.

What Do I Have?

I always have the essentials for my baby and a few toys. I have a jumper that he is on once or maybe twice a week, we spend most of the day with motor and developmental skills. I have the minimum and I have no regrets.

What Don’t I Have?

I don’t have a mamaroo, a walker, a glider, a bassinet, a sit up seat, a toy pen, etc. for my child. Most of those items are not recommended by pediatricians and if I did, the babies grow out of them very quickly. 

This blog is not to shame anyone who has or doesn’t have any of those things, it’s just to show that we can do and are probably better off without them. Those things do nothing but bring clutter into our home and our mind. Always think: less is more!

Is this sustainable when they get older? The answer is always absolutely! Keep the toys to a minimum of 10-15 toys and if they buy a new one, they’ll have to donate one of the old ones to charity. It’s not about stripping toys away from children but allowing them to have a few toys and be happy with what they have or else they’ll always be wanting.

I have included photos of my baby room and what it all consists of. 

Yours Truly,

Melissa Lee

A lot of times, your credit limit is at its limit so how can we increase the credit spending limit?

1. Use your card, a lot. 

If you aren’t using your card, why would the creditor increase your spending? Most cards come with a $250-$500 limit to ensure that you are responsible with a little amount. 

(Refer to my other blog about how to take advantage of your credit cards to maximize the best use for your usage.)

https://loveahmongus.com/taking-advantage-of-my-credit-cards/

2. You can ask for a credit increase every 6 months.

You are allowed to ask for a credit increase every 6 months, not that you should do so but be responsible. When you are spending a lot, the creditor usually increases your spending limits for you. If they do not, you can contact them to increase your limit. Be wary of how some creditors increase your limit. Some do not pull your credit, some do. My CapitalOne card, I am able to ask for an increase on my account without ever talking to anyone. My Chase card requires a hard credit pull, which is ridiculous so just know their practices and they usually tell you if they need to do a hard inquiry on your credit.

3. Most importantly, be responsible. 

More credit spending limit is good for your score but make sure that you don’t get too greedy because then it can be risky. More spending limits might mean more spending so be responsible. I usually do a credit increase every year as I do not need one every 6 months. It’s a bigger increase anyway when you do it every year as opposed to every 6 months. 

Hope this helps! 

Melissa Lee

I love that a lot of my friends are transitioning into a more minimal and eco-friendly lifestyle. It is so much more sustainable and rewarding. With that said, I’ve had a good share of eco-friendly products that I’ve used in my home and would like to share with those who are still looking for that right fit into their home.

1. Mrs. Meyers

I got the whole cleaner set to start off my eco-friendly bundle so I had a variety of these to use. I do have to say that I did NOT like Mrs. Meyers products because the scent was way overpowering. I chose lavender for the daily cleaner and it was almost unbearable and not just for me but for everyone else in my household. I discontinued using them immediately.

2. Grove Collaborative

Those who watch my stories on social media know how much of an advocate I am for Grove and there’s no bias or affiliation with them at all. They have so many products that go from daily cleaners to sustainable dish sponges and household items. I love and vouch for Grove Collaborative so much. I get my quarterly order from them for my household. I love it!

3. Young Living

I haven’t branched outside of their essential oils but I really like the diffuser and their peppermint essential oils. I can’t live without it, to be honest. They’re pretty eco-friendly and sustainable as well. Those are the only two things I like from Young Living though but they play a big part of my life!

4. 4Ocean

Their products are available at my local aquarium and I got their reusable metal straws and straw cleaner along with a bracelet made from all the recycled plastic they retrieve from the ocean. Their cause is not only eco-friendly but they also help clean the oceans up from plastics. I love what they stand for and happily purchase their items!

Bonus*

Some items that aren’t a big brand name that I use religiously are:

Wool balls for the dyer – These have literally changed my life. They keep the clothes apart and dry and I will never go back to dryer sheets again!

Reusable zip lock bags – These are available almost everywhere and I love their versatile uses!

Bamboo bed sheets/pillow covers – These make SUCH a huge difference because they keep you cool throughout the night. Cotton absorbs so much heat and bamboo sheets do not! Life changer right there!

I hope this has given you some insight on eco-friendly products and their uses. Also not all products are eco-friendly, even if they claim so do your research and know where the product is coming from and what’s in it.

Love,

Melissa Lee

As part of my healing process, I am writing this. For anyone who has gone through sexual trauma, I wish you healing and peace. I hope you will become empowered from my experience.

On March 9, 2019, I went to my massage appointment just as I always had with my masseuse, Jason. I usually book a 1.5 hour relaxation massage but they had a 2 hour one so I took that one instead. I usually go with my husband but he wasn’t available so I took my sister to go get one also. I had been going to Jason for almost 3 years with no incident but this time, it was different. The massage started out the same as usual but then towards the last 15 minutes, he pressed his hands over my breasts. There was no accident about it as he continued to fondle me and I tried to use my hand to let him know that I was awake but he brushed them off and continued anyway. I was frozen and my heart was beating outside of my chest. I didn’t know what to do or think, was this really happening to me? I waited until the ordeal was over to where I could go to the front and report him. He acted as if nothing happened after the massage and as soon as I saw light in the reception room, I went up to the receptionist and asked for the manager or owner as soon as possible. I could tell she was flustered as she probably wasn’t expecting me to say that. A couple of minutes had passed and I didn’t want Jason to see me so I told another receptionist that I needed a manager or owner now. She made a call and took me outside to ask what was going on and all I could get out was my tears. I wailed and I wailed as I told her what had just happened to me. She hugged me and assured me that the owner was on their way to the spa.

I waited in the car while telling my sister and we both just became lifeless. The owner showed up and called to see where I was and I pointed her over my direction. I cried again and she told me that she was sorry and that she would dismiss him immediately and take him off the floor. She advised me not to call the cops but to put in a complaint against his massage license. After that ordeal, I decided to call the cops because I needed to document this tragic event. The cops showed up and it was two male officers. They took my statement but didn’t seem too focused on my situation. One of the officers was so casual, they commented on how annoyed they were that people kept texting them. I just went through a sexual assault and he was complaining about his texts – I was floored. They entered the salon to speak with the owner and Jason and came out to tell me that he denied everything so they weren’t able to make an arrest. I wailed and I screamed because I could not believe it. The officers didn’t care to call in any forensics to swab my breasts for massage oil or fingerprints and left us with a piece of paper to send to a detective to evaluate my case. I never felt so empty. We didn’t hear anything for two weeks and I sent in the paperwork for the district attorney to file criminal charges and prosecute Jason but they denied my case and stated that there was a lack of evidence. My heart just sank, I did everything by the book but yet nothing happened. I felt robbed of justice because I didn’t want Jason to do this to anyone else. I wasn’t going to stop. I also filed a complaint against his massage license with the State of Florida and they found cause to move forward to revoke or suspend his massage license. I was hopeful that I was going to stop Jason from doing this to anyone else. I decided not to pursue a claim with the business since they terminated him and was going to file a civil lawsuit against Jason. It wasn’t until I spoke with an attorney who asked if he was still working at the salon and I said I was sure he didn’t since the owner said she was going to let him go but I decided to call 5 months later and sure enough, he was still working there. My heart just sank, I couldn’t believe it.

I knew then what I had to do and that was to file a civil lawsuit against both the business and Jason. I was not going to let them both get away with this. After filing my lawsuits, I realized how slow the justice system is. You only meet every 1-2 months and it’s about proceeding with the lawsuit and then you wait another 1-2 months to meet again. It was draining but I was willing to risk it all because it was worth fighting for. I was grateful enough to have a boss who allowed me to go to my court dates and to keep fighting my cause. 

It’s been almost two years and I am still waiting on the State of Florida to push a hearing on his massage license and my civil lawsuit is still going with no new updates. I called the State of Florida to ask if Jason was still allowed to work if there is a case pending against him and they said he was able to still work. I just couldn’t believe it. No one seemed to want justice more than me as the attorneys weren’t pushing hard enough and I didn’t know if it was even worth fighting for anymore.

Now I understand why sexual assault victims do not come forward. Oftentimes, their experiences are dismissed/discredited or they have to go to court so many times that they can’t risk losing their jobs. We have to come up with a better system to help these victims. There has to be better training for our police officers and government officials. Nothing is more invalidating than going through something like this and nothing being done about it. 

To this day, I still have PTSD from my trauma. It usually happens at night and it keeps me awake. I think about the situation over and over in my head and what I could have done instead. My husband reassures me that I reacted correctly and that I should have never been put in such a situation. My mental health counselor also validates that as well. It’s hard not to think about it and the what if’s but I know that I must look forward because I cannot change the past.

To my victims, continue being strong. Do not let your abuser win. We will receive our justice, whether here on Earth or in Heaven. Do not be discouraged. I am with you, we will continue the fight and get through this together. Do not lose hope. We have so many reasons to keep moving forward, I hope you never stop.

Sincerely,

Melissa Lee

The following experience is solely based on my own account with my designated hospital. I am writing this to inform first time parents of what they can expect and how they may avoid an experience like mine. 

I never knew such joy and love could exist with my newborn baby boy. I never imagined loving a little human being so much. I am truly grateful to my God for blessing our family and I will never take it for granted. I couldn’t imagine my life without him and I love him so much. 

I also never knew that the experience throughout it all would be quite the opposite feeling. My water broke at 2:00AM and we were headed on our way to the hospital. I was in labor for almost 20 hours before I delivered my baby boy within 40 minutes. He was a healthy, full-term baby weighing at 7lbs and 8oz. The NICU was there to make sure he was crying when he was delivered because he had a bowel movement while I was in labor. Thankfully, everything went well and we were expected to leave the hospital in 24 hours. We were wheeled into the postpartum recovery room and had two nurses tend to us. Three hours in and one of the nurses voiced their concern for my baby’s body temperature. It was 97 and they needed it at 97.5 and called for the doctor. My husband and I looked at each other with such worry that we didn’t even know what to think. The doctor came in and told us that they will need to take him into the NICU to raise his temperature and run some tests. They also told us that because his temperature was low, he couldn’t eat and that made his blood sugar low so that was another reason to take him into the NICU. My baby wasn’t even a day old yet and they’re taking him from me! I cried because I didn’t know what to do so I sent my husband with them to protect our child. The next time I saw my baby boy, he had wires all over him and they put an IV in his hand. They did this to my baby because his temperature was low and would rather not just put him under a heater to bring his body temperature up. I couldn’t stop crying because I couldn’t be with my baby and he was already in pain that I couldn’t shelter him from. Our baby was a healthy, full term baby and yet, they took him to the NICU. The NICU was mainly for babies that were preemies. Our baby was the only full term baby there, I didn’t understand it.

The NICU experience was a horrible nightmare. They pricked his feet every hour to check his blood sugar and it made both of his feet turn purple after 2 days. They also did it when he slept so he would wake up screaming. The IV in his hand kept scratching his face and I felt so helpless. They had fluids running through his IV every 3 hours, I wondered if his body could withstand it. We couldn’t leave for two more days because the lab tests wouldn’t come back until then. Thankfully, I wasn’t in too much pain and my husband was able to wheel me back and forth from the recovery room to my baby’s NICU room. Everything that was normal was no longer normal and it seemed like the hospital staff was finding every excuse to keep my baby there. After two very long days in the hospital, all the tests came back negative. We were finally able to go home but not without repercussions. For weeks at home, my baby would wake up crying and screaming, just like he did when they would prick his feet when he was sleeping at the hospital. The experience for me was horrifying, I forgot that it was traumatizing for him as well barely being a few days old. I was just so glad to have him home where I could protect him.

Just when I thought it was all over, the bills started coming from the hospital. It wasn’t too bad at first, it was about $1,500 after insurance which I expected and I thought that was the end of it. A few weeks later, I received another bill from the hospital for my recovery room stay and it totaled $19,000 after insurance! There was no way so we re-submitted to my insurance to review and they eventually paid $14,000 leaving us with $5,000 – which was still way more than we anticipated so we paid that and thought it was all done. Not even a week later, we received a bill for my baby! It was for his NICU room charges and that total $21,000! We spoke to insurance and they paid $16,000 of it leaving us with $5,000 to pay. It was insane! We looked at the total breakdown of all the bills and it was the rooms that costs the most! They were 90% of the bill! It was no wonder they wanted to keep us and baby there. We paid more than $10,000 out of our own pockets and I have no more hope in the medical systems. 

I write this to all first time parents to challenge what the doctors at the hospitals tell you. Please choose a pediatrician before you go into labor because they will help give you a second opinion at the hospital – they can be trusted. I don’t want anyone to go through what I did – physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially. 

Yours Truly,

Melissa Lee

I’ve put together another list to help make extra income and how to save money.

1. Sell things that you no longer use/need/want.

When my husband and I were moving to our new home, we wanted to start fresh with everything. We sold our biggest items such as a guest bed, storage cubes, couches, computer desk, etc. to our smaller items such as kitchen and dinnerware. This started a fund for our new items that we would be purchasing for the new home. It also made moving way easier for us too since I was pregnant and unable to help.

When you need extra cash, look around your place for things to sell online and make some extra cash. They say another man’s trash is another man’s treasure and it’s true! I’m sure we all have plenty of items that we can get rid of and it also helps with decluttering your place. If you have enough items, you could even do a garage sale. This will bring in a little extra income and help you organize and declutter at the same time.

2. Turn off the TV on the weekdays.

My husband came up with this idea as he thought that we were just wasting away watching TV after work every day. We went to Barnes & Noble and got a book for each of us to read instead. This not only cuts down on our screen time and electricity, we were able to be in peace and tranquility in our home without many distractions. We are able to sit down at the table and have dinner together and converse. This has made quality time for us so much more meaningful!

3. Use only what you need.

This applies to anything and everything. I have a rule for toilet paper that if you are only doing a number one, use only 3 squares. Water usage is only to be turned on a small setting to wash your hands or dishes. Electricity is only to be turned on when it is needed. This might sound stingy but it’s actually preserving resources. Why leave the light on in the hallway if you’re just going to be in your room with the door closed? Why turn on the water all the way for it to spill all over the counter and make a mess? This creates more chaos and more work for you.

My husband and I live in a two-story home that is 2,600 square feet. Our water bill is an average of $45 a month! Can you believe that? Our electricity bill averages out to $95 a month. I think that number can be a little bit better and hopefully it will go down with us turning off the TV on the weekdays but we only try to use what we need. I know this can be difficult with bigger families but try to teach them how to preserve resources. It’s better for you and for the planet.

4. Make the most out of what you have.

For my dish soap, I do a ratio of 3/4 of soap and 1/4 of water in the glass dispenser. This has helped me make the most out of my dish soap because they’re both reliant on each other to work so why not combine the both? I haven’t seen a decrease in the quality of the soap usage either.

For cooking, I cook a bulk meal for dinner so that I have leftovers for lunch the next day – it’s breakfast for my husband. This helps us save on food and we don’t have to scramble to cook something for lunch or go out and buy food.

For my beauty regime, I wash my face while I am showering. I feel this is two birds with one stone because for some reason, when I am out of the shower, I don’t feel like going to the sink and doing it there. Don’t ask me why, I’ve just never liked doing it. Washing my face in the shower while the conditioner is in my hair helps me get my beauty regime done.

5. Look at where you can cut expenses.

We stopped purchasing bottled water years ago because my husband would leave them all over the house and I just couldn’t justify it anymore. We got a water filter for our refrigerator and I put water in a pitcher and that’s where we drink water from. This applies to us and all of our guests who come over. We set out a water pitcher with cups and coasters and this has cut down our use of plastic water bottles and clean up! We do have bottled water in our home but it’s only for emergencies such as hurricanes, pandemic, etc. Even when we travel, I fill a gallon water jug for us to use instead of water bottles. It’s just more eco-friendly and less wasteful.

I rarely ever drink coffee but I hear it’s one of the biggest expense for some people because they go to Starbucks or Dunkin’ Donuts every day. That’s $5 a day for 365 days totaling $1,825! You could use that money for a vacation or to pay off a debt! Just know where your money is going.

To stay disciplined for a minimal and frugal lifestyle isn’t hard once you get used to it but the hardest part is getting into it. I know we have our normal routines and attachment to things but if we don’t get away from that, we will always be left with a lot of “stuff” that will only clutter our house and our minds. How your house looks like will affect how your mind will also look like. Let yourself go of all those material things and find freedom in the things that are in the experiences that life has to offer! I hope this list helps.

Sincerely,

Melissa Lee